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No Big Deal Side

Updated: Jan 3, 2023


IT’S MOTHER’S DAY WEEK! I AM THINKING ABOUT ALL THE BELLS AND WHISTLES THAT GO ON. ALL OF THE SENTIMENTAL CARDS THAT MAKE YOU TEAR UP AND THE BEAUTIFUL FLOWERS AND BALLOONS AND SUCH. THE BREAKFAST, BRUNCH, LUNCH, AND DINNER RESERVATIONS THAT HAVE ALREADY BEEN MADE ALL IN PREPARATION. MOTHER’S DAY CALLS FOR CERTAIN ACCOMMODATIONS AND SPECIAL ARRANGEMENTS AND DISCOUNTS \0/ ….LOVE ME SOME DISCOUNTS! IT’S SUCH A WONDERFUL BEAUTIFUL TIME FOR ALL OF THE MOM’S OUT THERE TO BE RECOGNIZED AND HONORED AND LOVED ON. SUCH AN EXCITING TIME…..HMMM WELL FOR SOME.


I DARE NOT RAIN ON ANYONE’S PARADE OR MAKE ANYONE FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE, BUT I KEEP THINKING ABOUT THOSE WHO DREAD MOTHER’S DAY, WHO COULD REALLY CARE LESS ABOUT IT, WHO HONESTLY FEEL LIKE MOTHER’S DAY IS NO BIG DEAL. YES THERE ARE SOME WHO DO NOT FEEL WARM WHEN THOUGHTS OF THEIR MOTHER COMES UP. I KNOW THIS MAY SEAM HARSH BUT IT IS A REALITY OUT THERE THAT WE MUST FACE.


THIS NO BIG DEAL REALITY CAN LOOK LIKE IN PAST TENSE OR PRESENT TENSE…….

I HAD AN AMAZING MOM WHO I LOVED AND LOVED ME BUT SHE PASSED AWAY FROM THIS EARTH AND IS NOT HERE ANYMORE TO SHARE LIFE WITH. I MISS MY MOM.

MY MOTHER LEFT ME WHEN I WAS YOUNG

MY MOTHER HAD ME WHEN SHE WAS YOUNG AND DID NOT TAKE HER RESPONSIBILITY SERIOUSLY

MY MOTHER CHOSE OTHER PEOPLE OVER ME

MY MOTHER WAS TOO BUSY TO SPEND TIME WITH ME

MY MOTHER’S MENTAL ILLNESS KEEPS US DISTANT

MY MOTHER REALLY DID NOT LIKE ME

MY MOTHER ABUSED ME (PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY, PSYCHOLOGICALLY)

MY MOTHER KEPT ME FROM SEEING MY FATHER AND HIS FAMILY

MY MOTHER NEGLECTED ME

MY MOTHER DID NOT PROTECT ME

MY MOTHER ABANDONED ME

MY MOTHER ALWAYS FOUGHT WITH ME

MY MOTHER AND I DO NOT TALK ANYMORE

MY MOTHER………YOU CAN FILL IN A MILLION BLANKS ON THIS.


IF YOU ARE READING THIS AND YOU ARE FINDING YOURSELF ON THE NO BIG DEAL SIDE OF MOTHER’S DAY BECAUSE OF SOME OF THE REASONS I MENTIONED OR MORE, PLEASE KNOW THAT GOD WANTS TO HEAL YOU AND MAKE YOU WHOLE. HE SEES AND KNOWS WHAT YOU ARE DEALING WITH. AND LET’S BE HONEST HERE AND SAY THAT MOTHER’S DAY IS A MAGNIFIED DREAD BECAUSE OF THE ONE HOLIDAY PER YEAR ON THE CALENDAR BUT TRUTH BE TOLD YOU STILL ARE LIVING 364 OTHER DAYS WITH THESE REASONS OF DREAD. THESE REASONS ARE VERY VALID AND PAINFUL, BUT DO NOT ALLOW THE MAGNIFIED ONE DAY THAT THE WORLD IS LOOKING AT KEEP YOU FROM EXPERIENCING GOD’S LOVE. I ENCOURAGE YOU NOT TO LET THE OTHER 364 DAYS KEEP YOU FROM HIS LOVE EITHER.


IT DOESN’T EVEN MATTER IF MOTHER’S DAY IS A NO BIG DEAL HOLIDAY FOR YOU. IT’S OKAY TO GREIVE BUT NOT OKAY FOR THE SPIRIT OF GRIEF TO OVERTAKE YOU AND WEAR YOU DOWN AND PARALYZE YOU. ASIDE FROM AN AMAZING MOTHER PASSING AWAY…. UNDERSTAND ALL OF THE OTHER REASONS AND ACTIONS I LISTED ARE COMING FROM A BROKEN PERSON WHO IS IN PAIN THEMSELVES. YOU NEVER KNOW, SOMETHING TRAUMATIC COULD HAVE HAPPENED IN THEIR LIVES TO CAUSE THIS BEHAVIOR OR THEY COULD SIMPLY BE REPEATING GENERATIONAL BEHAVIOR FROM THEIR PARENTS.


WILL YOU BE THE ONE WHO WILL FORGIVE AND SHUT DOWN THE GENERATIONAL CURSES THAT RUN IN THE FAMILY? WILL YOU BE THE ONE TO PRAY FOR YOUR MOTHER? THE BIBLE SAYS TO LOVE YOUR ENEMIES…THAT ALSO MEANS THE ENEMIES WE ARE RELATED TO, NOT JUST PEOPLE ON THE OUTSIDE.


I CHALLENGE YOU TODAY…..GO AHEAD AND LET IT OUT, BUT GIVE IT OVER. BE LIKE DAVID AND REMEMBER WHO GOD IS TO YOU AND REMEMBER HIS FAITHFULNESS AND STEADFAST LOVE TOWARDS YOU. THE MORE YOU SPEAK OUT AND REMIND YOURSELF OF GOD’S WORD THE STRONGER YOU WILL FEEL. HE HAS NEVER LEFT YOU HAS HE? HAS HE EVER FORSAKEN YOU? TELL THE TRUTH…….LET ME ANSWER IT FOR YOU…A BIG DEAL NO. IN FACT HIS WORD SAYS WHEN YOUR MOTHER AND YOUR FATHER FORSAKE YOU, THEN THE LORD WILL TAKE YOU UP. HE’S GOT YOU AND YOU NEED TO HOLD ON TO THAT. YOU MAY NOT BE ABLE TO CHANGE WHAT HAS HAPPENED BUT YOU CAN BE SURE YOU HAVE THE POWER AND AUTHORITY IF JESUS IS LIVING INSIDE OF YOU TO CHANGE WHAT’S IN FRONT OF YOU.


TO THE ONES WHO’S AMAZING MOTHER’S HAVE TRANSITIONED FROM THIS EARTH, I KNOW YOU MISS HER, I KNOW YOU PROBABLY TRY TO AVOID SCROLLING ON SOCIAL MEDIA SEEING ALL OF THE MOTHER’S DAY CELEBRATIONS, BUT CAN I ENCOURAGE YOU TOO, TO GO AHEAD AND LET IT OUT BUT GIVE IT OVER TOO. AND FOLLOW WHAT KING DAVID DID WHEN HE ALWAYS LANDED ON WORSHIP AFTER HIS GRIEF. REMEMBER AND SHARE THOSE SPECIAL TIMES WITH OTHER FAMILY AND FRIENDS. DO NOT LET YOUR LIFE STOP BECAUSE YOUR MOTHER’S STOP HERE ON EARTH. SHE IS LIVING ON IN ETERNITY AND WILL PROBALLY NOT BE TOO PROUD OF YOU PARALYZING YOUR LIFE BECAUSE SHE HAS DEPARTED. SHE WOULD WANT YOU TO KEEP MOVING FORWARD LIVING OUT THE LEGACY SHE HAS LEFT BEHIND AND BUILDING YOUR OWN.

TURN YOUR NO BIG DEAL SIDE OF MOTHER’S DAY INTO A BLESSED ONE. YOU OWE IT TO YOURSELF AND THE ONES WHO GOD HAS SURROUNDED YOU WITH WHO LOVE YOU. HE LOVES YOU MORE THAN ANYONE EVER DID AND EVER WILL. BECAUSE YOU ARE A GREAT BIG DEAL TO HIM.


MY PRAYER FOR YOU: FATHER I MAGNIFY YOUR GREAT NAME TODAY. I PRAY FOR EVERYONE WHO WILL BE READING THIS BLOG TODAY. I PRAY FOR HEALING AND WHOLENESS IN HEARTS WHO ARE BROKEN AND WHO ARE HURT. GOD I AM CLEAR THAT NOT EVERYONE IS EXCITED ABOUT MOTHER’S DAY AND MAY FEEL THERE IS NOTHING TO CELEBRATE. OPEN THE EYES OF THEIR HEARTS SO THEY CAN SEE HOW MUCH YOU LOVE THEM AND THAT YOU HAVE BEEN RIGHT WITH THEM THROUGH THEIR PAIN. LORD LET THE HOPE OF YOUR GLORY BE REVEALED. LET THE STRENGTH AND THE POWER OF YOUR LOVE BE MANIFESTED. GOD YOU SAW THIS TIME IN THEIR LIVES FOR YOU KNEW US EVEN BEFORE WE WERE FORMED IN OUR MOTHER’S WOMB. YOU KNEW WHAT WAS GOING TO TAKE PLACE EVEN THEN AND ALLOWING THEM TO MAKE IT THROUGH. HELP THEM UNDERSTAND THAT YOU HAD A PLAN AND A PURPOSE FOR THEIR LIFE FROM THE BEGINNING. IT WAS A PLAN OF GOOD AND NOT OF EVIL TO GIVE A HOPE AND A FUTURE. HELP THEM TO TRUST YOU AND TO FORGIVE. IN JESUS NAME AMEN.


SCRIPTURES

Psalm 30:2 New International Version (NIV)

2 Lord my God, I called to you for help, and you healed me.


Matthew 5:44 King James Version (KJV)

44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;


Psalm 27:10 New International Version (NIV)

10 Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me.


Isaiah 41:10 New International Version (NIV)

10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.







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